Autistic people do not “recover” and the idea of “recovery” has been profoundly damaging to the Autistic community, encouraging service providers to emphasize normalcy above other more meaningful goals. Furthermore, by teaching Autistic children and adults that “recovery” – pretending to be something we are not – is the “optimal outcome” they can achieve, we send a profoundly damaging message to Autistic people, our families, and the public at large. Autism is a natural part of the human condition and not something to recover from or eliminate. The goal of autism research and service provision should be to create happy Autistic people, not to encourage ‘passing for non-Autistic’ without regard to the impact on our quality of life.
This is where I’m coming from, too. I don’t want to fix Crow’s neurology, I want to help him find the best ways to work with it, just as we all do with whatever wiring or programming challenges we face. He’s not broken (any more than the rest of us are), we just have an advantage because there’s a name for his variant and a slew of people who can help him learn to work with it. And if you ever hear me say/write anything that doesn’t line up with that basic tenet, I want you to slap me with something smelly. It’s that important.